How to Reach Your Desired Destination

So I haven’t published a Blogpost in a month so we’re gonna talk about it.

First of all, lets talk about why this blog even exists.  As many of you know I mainly do photo and video.  I manly make content for Instagram and YouTube, because right now those are the two platforms where the attention are for photo and video.  Each platform puts viewers in a certain state of mind so it’s important to put the right content in the right place.  So for longer form written word content I started this blog because there only so much people want to read on Instagram, and people need good long form video not just audio on YouTube (I will eventually get into audio).  With these platforms I want to help you, the people who support me, and consume what I put out.  I will never produce content that is purely a cash grab because my goal is to help you improve your life through art however I can.

So why did I stop?

Well I didn’t stop I’m here which is what this article is about, but i get it so I’m gonna give a real answer.

I was making excuses…

Lets go through some of them:

  • I don’t know what to write about.
  • I don’t have enough time.
  • I’m not in an optimal mental state.

Now I’m gonna explain why all those things were real, but still don’t matter.

Excuse #1 “I don’t know what to write about” 

Now this is somewhat true because although I actually have a backlog of topics, I had the idea in my head that every single thing i wrote needed to be super valuable. As a result some of those ideas i saw as not as good as others so i convinced myself that I shouldn’t publish anything unless it was even better than the last thing I posted.  All this sounds good, it’s easy to convince yourself excuses like that are valid BUT THEYRE NOT.

The truth is, the more I write the better I will get at writing, so If I’m actually trying to provide the most value in the long term the best thing i could do is write as much as possible so that i reach my potential as a writer even faster.  In that way I will be able to provide value at an even higher level to you.

Every Idea I write does not need to be the best most mind blowing thing.

Who’s to say if what I write will be valuable or not?  

I don’t get to decide that, you, my reader decides that something that might seem simple to me or uninteresting to me could be a break through for you if it’s something you just didn’t know or never thought of.  If you’re an artist you know this sometimes you make a bunch of work and a piece that you thought was so so turn out to one that someone or maybe even everyone loves the most.

You get to make things but you don’t get to decide how it’s received that’s for the audience, all we need to do as artists is make as much as possible.  We can leave interpretation and all the things that come with that to the audience, that doesn’t need to be your focus.

Excuse #2 “I don’t have enough time” .

Now this excuse is big bullshit, I know it’s bullshit, you know it’s bullshit, and deep down inside everyone knows this excuse is bullshit, but it still gets used so much.

Why?

Because people are afraid to face the truth.

The truth is time is one of those rare things where the playing field is all the way equal.  I’m sure you’ve heard before that saying “we all have the same 24 hours” and that’s because it’s true.  What it ultimately comes down to is priorities. So let’s talk about my situation.

It’s not that I didn’t have time, I chose to prioritize other things over writing this blog. I could have easily still be writing. I just had to do less of something else in order to do it and I didn’t want to, it’s that simple.  

I chose to make a money grab, not gonna even lie to ya’ll I was just focusing on a doing a lot of shoots that I didn’t necessarily feel like doing because I needed the money and I just like how it feels to help my customers (in that order not gonna lie to ya’ll).  That may not have been the right choice long term, which is why I’m back to being selective with my gigs in order to create more content.

Yes, I needed money because real life stuff was happening. And yes I love taking peoples picture pretty much anyone, but money, or just taking peoples pictures is not my main goal, so my priorities were not in alignment with my main goal… 

Which is why I’m back to writing, because that’s more in alignment with helping my fellow artists.

Excuse #3

This one is kind of touchy subject so be open minded as you read.  

I don’t think you should wait for the right mental state before doing your work, at least not always…

 You have to asses thing’s for yourself don’t want to tell you how to live or to do anything that’s gonna make you unhappy.  But I’ve found for myself and many others doing the things you don’t feel like doing because your depressed or anxious helps to relive the depression/anxiety.  

Again I’m talking about in art making, I’m not a psychologist so I’m not going to claim to 100% know what you should do about your mental health just sharing what works for me.

My mind was full of worries, I want to move and that requires money so I was trying to get some extra money to set aside to make sure moving is as painless as possible when the opportunity to do so arises.  Someone died that I didn’t really expect to, and it really made me reflect, a lot, like too much.  

I found myself reflecting on things coming to conclusions, and then reflecting more and spiraling downward instead of actually taking action on the conclusions that I came to about life.  We all need to reflect when major events transpire but not to the point where you get stuck in overthinking.

One thing that I always have to keep in mind that overthinking usually mean underacting, and action is they key to results.

What does all that have to do with you?

I’ve heard so many artists talk about ideas they want to make reality or skills they want to learn, and then I see them later and they haven’t gotten there and have veered off the path to getting there completely.  I do not want this for you!

I say this phrase a lot to myself and to others “I will reach my desired destination”. There isn’t just one point where I want my life to end up I have a ton of ideas to make realities, I just like the journey metaphor for life.

The only reason my ideas get done is because i just keep doing them until their done once i decide that they have to happen.  

Things will always come up.

There will be things knocking you off your metaphorical horse for the rest of your life. It is absolutely imperative that you do not let those obstacles keep you off the horse for too long.  My goal is to become someone who gets back on the horse super fast, but I’m not there yet and that’s ok.

As long as you get back on the horse you can continue toward your desired destination and with time you will get there, just don’t waste too much time in the dirt when you get knocked off.

- Jamal

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